Always be firm and consistent don't back out of something you said or let them work you out of what you have said, just because you feel bad. Don't punish out of anger. Beating your kid doesn't always help. In my case it just gave me a high pain tolerance to beat the shit out of my dad at a later date, so good luck on that if you go that route. It comes day by day you will figure it out and congrats.
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IM FREAKING OUT MAN!!!
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AWESOME DUDE!! Best thing that will ever happen to you besides your wife.Like all the other guys have all ready said, Be patience no matter what kind of shit goes wrong .I have two boys 12 & 15 and they will test you in every way but show them as much love and discipline as you can.Enjoy everyday,Now on the super cool side if its a boy you will have a riding buddy for life!! Congrats again.
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When mine was an infant, she got constipated. I said to my wife "should I squeeze her?". The look I got was priceless!
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^LOL^ Love is not dropping the kid when he's got diahrea and it squirts out the diaper sides onto you. 
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Don't worry you will have that "moment". The first time that you hold your newborn you will know what it's all about. It changes your life forever.
Personally being a parent is easy. Being a good dad is tough it's just got be a priority. You'll learn quick though. My twins are now 1! After 4 kids I got this somewhat down and I do say that first time is nerve wracking. Until you get themhome and realize it's not hard with babies. It gets harder as they get older though!
kids are the greatest thing i never want to do allover again.
you are not ready, and will never be really ready. read your 'what to expect when your expecting'. it will be the cliff notes, but your/her mother should have the full story.
play 'joe cool' for your lady if you can pull it off.
and be excited, nervous, happy and FREAK OUT. it's natural
you are not ready, and will never be really ready. read your 'what to expect when your expecting'. it will be the cliff notes, but your/her mother should have the full story.
play 'joe cool' for your lady if you can pull it off.
and be excited, nervous, happy and FREAK OUT. it's natural
Time does fly. take lots of pictures. You will need some poopy diaper pictures for black mail later on.
My two are a freshman and sophomore in high school.
Already wondering what my wife and I are going to do when they go off on there own.
My two are a freshman and sophomore in high school.
Already wondering what my wife and I are going to do when they go off on there own.
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So here is a question for eveyrbody. when did you have that "moment" when everything "hit you" and you realized that this is what it's all about? For me it was that first time that I heald him.
captain chaos
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Lots to learn......
Here's a few things I picked up over the past 5yrs and 2 boys:
-relax and enjoy the ride
-Holding them is a breeze. I, like you, had never held a baby before-never cared to. Support the head as their neck muscles are weak at first but they won't shatter like their made of glass so relax, you're not going to hurt him/her unless you're especially stupid/careless.
-be patient and understanding. As an infant their only means of communicating is crying. That means hungry=cry, got gas= cry, confused or overwhelmed=cry, just in a bad mood=cry. There will be times where they just need to cry in a room by themselves. If you know they are fed, clean and not genuinely in need of something letting them cry in a room by themselves is OK, it's NOT child abuse. The crying can be stressful (it was for me) and letting them let it out in another room gives you a chance to take a deep breath and relax. If you're angry and stressed it stresses them too and they crying will last longer. Trust me, you will need this from time to time. This is especially hard to learn w/ the first kid as you want to meet their every need immediately. Just don't ever handle a baby in anger. It is ALWAYS better to set them down in a safe (emphasis on "safe" ) place and come back when you've cooled down.
-you won't need to know about discipline until much later so don't sweat that. When that time comes though, don't be timid about setting the rules and enforcing them. YOU are the boss, make sure they know that. Keep in mind, not all kids respond to spanking. Be creative in your punishments and find what REALLY drives the point home with them. My oldest HATES being isolated and ignored. It's pure torture to him. He'd 10x rather be spanked so you can guess what his punishment is for major infractions.
-Never be afraid or embarrassed to let out your "inner child". Acting silly and playing stupid games is primo bonding time between Dad and kid.
-Never be afraid or embarrassed to love on your kids (even in public). A hug, a kiss, or an "I love you" can mean the world to a kid. It's important that they know that you love and support them no matter what and no matter who's looking. Tough guys can still be tough while loving their kids.
-lastly: in the whole history of the world there has never been a perfect parent. You will be no different. You WILL make mistakes. Don't sweat it. As long as you cover the major objectives (Love them, care for them, be there for them) that's all they will remember when their older and things will work out fine.
Good luck and enjoy what will be the greatest experiance of your life.
Here's a few things I picked up over the past 5yrs and 2 boys:
-relax and enjoy the ride
-Holding them is a breeze. I, like you, had never held a baby before-never cared to. Support the head as their neck muscles are weak at first but they won't shatter like their made of glass so relax, you're not going to hurt him/her unless you're especially stupid/careless.
-be patient and understanding. As an infant their only means of communicating is crying. That means hungry=cry, got gas= cry, confused or overwhelmed=cry, just in a bad mood=cry. There will be times where they just need to cry in a room by themselves. If you know they are fed, clean and not genuinely in need of something letting them cry in a room by themselves is OK, it's NOT child abuse. The crying can be stressful (it was for me) and letting them let it out in another room gives you a chance to take a deep breath and relax. If you're angry and stressed it stresses them too and they crying will last longer. Trust me, you will need this from time to time. This is especially hard to learn w/ the first kid as you want to meet their every need immediately. Just don't ever handle a baby in anger. It is ALWAYS better to set them down in a safe (emphasis on "safe" ) place and come back when you've cooled down.
-you won't need to know about discipline until much later so don't sweat that. When that time comes though, don't be timid about setting the rules and enforcing them. YOU are the boss, make sure they know that. Keep in mind, not all kids respond to spanking. Be creative in your punishments and find what REALLY drives the point home with them. My oldest HATES being isolated and ignored. It's pure torture to him. He'd 10x rather be spanked so you can guess what his punishment is for major infractions.
-Never be afraid or embarrassed to let out your "inner child". Acting silly and playing stupid games is primo bonding time between Dad and kid.
-Never be afraid or embarrassed to love on your kids (even in public). A hug, a kiss, or an "I love you" can mean the world to a kid. It's important that they know that you love and support them no matter what and no matter who's looking. Tough guys can still be tough while loving their kids.
-lastly: in the whole history of the world there has never been a perfect parent. You will be no different. You WILL make mistakes. Don't sweat it. As long as you cover the major objectives (Love them, care for them, be there for them) that's all they will remember when their older and things will work out fine.
Good luck and enjoy what will be the greatest experiance of your life.
Patience, patience, patience. When you feel yourself getting mad, take a break, count to ten, whatever. Yeah, sometimes they will do things intentionally to make you mad, but generally it's because they want attention or they just don't know how else to express themselves at the time - not to be vindictive. Only adults act like that...
One of my favorite stories from a good friend. His daughter was maybe 4 or 5 and was throwing a fit because she didn't want to go to bed. She started screaming at him "I hate you, I hate you, and I hate your waffles!" Instead of getting mad, he looked at her and said "That's ridiculous, my waffles are delicious." He got her into bed, kissed her goodnight, and asked what she would like for breakfast. "Waffles." Moral - doesn't do any good to blow your top when they are tired, scared, frustrated, etc. And a lot of the time they really aren't sure what they want.
Have fun man, I have three that are gone, and two that are coming up on two years old. I'd give anything to have all 5 of them with me. Don't wish any time away, even when things are a little tough. You never get it back.
One of my favorite stories from a good friend. His daughter was maybe 4 or 5 and was throwing a fit because she didn't want to go to bed. She started screaming at him "I hate you, I hate you, and I hate your waffles!" Instead of getting mad, he looked at her and said "That's ridiculous, my waffles are delicious." He got her into bed, kissed her goodnight, and asked what she would like for breakfast. "Waffles." Moral - doesn't do any good to blow your top when they are tired, scared, frustrated, etc. And a lot of the time they really aren't sure what they want.
Have fun man, I have three that are gone, and two that are coming up on two years old. I'd give anything to have all 5 of them with me. Don't wish any time away, even when things are a little tough. You never get it back.
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All the posters I've seen say not to shake them. [confused] haha
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Don't worry thnd3r she will be daddys' little girl before you know it.
Check out that song by kenny chesney "there goes my life"
toooo funny
Check out that song by kenny chesney "there goes my life"
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