Here we go...
Do you have aftermarket exhaust? If so, what kind? Do you have a high flow air filter? Intake mods?
That info will help someone supply you with the correct part.
Alternatively:
You can buy a 'race' ECM from EBR directly or IDSpeed ($300)
You can PM AZMidget and he can get the correct program installed on your ECM for you ($100)
You can get a Bluetooth dongle and then usually find the correct program from a place like Buelltooth.com (for free) and do it yourself.