Question about a female

[Midnight82]

I think this needs to be a conversation in person.
Text messaging is great when you're all "Hey baby, grab me some beer on your way home", but that's it's extent.

Text messaging is like email, you can't read facial expressions, you can't hear tone. You need to put it out on the table and see/hear how she handles it. You'll know within the first sentance if she's in it or not.

Just sayin.

Good luck man.

 

[Buellysses]

Haha, I gotta say guys (and gals), this is EXACTLY why I chose to post this. This group always has a way to make a guy laugh.

Text messaging is like email, you can't read facial expressions, you can't hear tone. You need to put it out on the table and see/hear how she handles it. You'll know within the first sentance if she's in it or not.

Absolutely 100% right. [up]

Leave girl, go back to Vegas, have a good time, accidentally marry a hooker, get punched by Mike Tyson, rinse and repeat.

Ironically, I'm leaving for Vegas in a couple hours.

Thanks again guys.

 

[maronz]

Honestly, if the effort isn't being put into it on each side, then let it go. Same b.s. happened to me. I was working a lot and didn't have as much time to spend with her as she wanted even though I tried to use the time I had for her to spend together. Well, she met someone else and that was it. Cut your losses before you get hurt. If she really wants you, she'll come to you.

 

[donphantasmo]

I hate to ask, but why are you guys communicating with text. Man up and talk to her face to face. The conversation will be a lot better, and you can convey emotion better. Just my $.02

 

[timo]

She's a winner... you should go marry her, have kids, get divorced, let her kick you out of your own house, give her have your shit, and then pay her for the next 18 years. Of course, I'm being sarcastic... But some lessons are best learned the hard way. At least after that, you'll never marry someone after 4 months

 

[christianmb]

From the text messages, it sounds like she is not as emotionally invested in the relationship as you are. It kind of sounds like she has the attitude of, "Oh, well. If it doesn't work out, I'll make something (or someone) else work" The "dating my phone" comment sent off lots of alarms in my book, and the fact that she wants to talk, but she doesn't answer when you call...that with being very defensive about the guy, not a good sign. Been in this situation before, and the ensuing crash-and-burn made the Hindenburg look like a picnic.


Besides, if it does end, look at all the free time and $$ you will be able to put towards your woman that doesn't argue (as much), your Buell!

 

[rodimus prime]

Not going to bother reading all the replies, but why the childish texting. Just call her. She sounds like she wants to talk, not text.

The only time Ive ever really texted girlfriends, or my wife (girlfriends before married) was to see if they had time to talk or to ask a quick question. Asking a gf to vegas by text is lame, asking about relationship status by text is even worse.

 

[CowboyKS]

Ok, here's the "step out of the forest" so you can "see the trees" comments.
1) it sounds like you want a long term relationship - maybe with this woman
2) having a long term relationship is the toughest thing I have ever done (and I'm a good guy that married a great woman) - most guys agree (or are divorced).
3) the relationship has to be based on something far beyond like, lust, happy as these are all fleeting - and will never bridge the potholes in life you run into
4) We're Catholic and take the whole Sacrament of Marriage concept to heart - or we wouldn't still be married
5) marriagebuilders.com is an amazing site/philosphy/plan for being married.
6) why not just date and have lots of fun!

 

[Burton]

^^ [up] for you man. Good stuff.

 

[BikerTrash]

 

[Alfatango1]

Not going to bother reading all the replies, but why the childish texting. Just call her. She sounds like she wants to talk, not text.

It's a generational thing that is spreading up the age ladder. So much easier to ignore someone without actual vocal interaction.

 

[NAZA RETH 73]

Never trust anything that hasn't got a kill switch or gear lever.......